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Going to stop it

Posted: Wed Oct 19, 2011 3:29 pm
by asfish
On Monday turned 40 into 580 on the FOBT then left an hour later with nothing

Not the worst beating I ever had, as the “gamblers logic” tells me that I only lost £40 in “real terms”

Problem is that I have a good 600 on a credit card which is mostly cash withdrawals I used to gamble with.

No real problem with this as a debt aside from the fact that I pay all the bills and the wife saves, so as a result I’m lucky to have 2-300 a month in slack in my account and have to lie to the wife to get extra cash to pay this sort of stuff off.

Some would think that the wife is a bit green or naïve in that she seldom asks questions.

A few days away on business in a hotel room has given me time to reflect and I have arrived at a depressing truth.

I’m a lying compulsive gambler who abuses his wife’s trust in these matters. This is women I love and who loves me and this side of the gambling is making me feel lick a piece of shit

So that’s it I’m going to give GA a go, not sure about the steps and the higher power stuff but you need to start somewhere.

In the end I have never won, you either obviously loose playing or if you win say £500 I find myself having to hide the money and when you do that you don’t spend it on anything other than more gambling

Sure I will be better not coming here for a while as tales of wins don’t really help your frame of mind.

Wish all you pro’s and other players the best of British but after 25 years of slot playing its time I stopped for good

Posted: Wed Oct 19, 2011 4:05 pm
by Glendale
Best of luck mate! Unless your a pro its impossible to win!

Posted: Wed Oct 19, 2011 4:07 pm
by harry2
Get a few photo's done, passport size, and self exclude from all the bookies and arcades. Done wonders for me, still fall off the wagon though.

Posted: Wed Oct 19, 2011 4:09 pm
by Houston
The thing about "Tales of Winnings", is that they are usually accompanied by tales of losing, though these are either forgotten about, or not posted at all.

You have a wife/girlfriend who you love, so you owe it to her to stop or dramatically reduce your gambling. There's no shame in admitting a problem, or asking for help with it. That's the first steps.

Now take another step by sticking to your decision to stop.

I hope you succeed.

Posted: Wed Oct 19, 2011 4:35 pm
by barneybear
Really wish you the best of British with your decision. All of Your sentiments have definitely crossed my mind in the last month.

Were in a deep recession and it seems the only ones doing well are the bookies!!

Plan some trips away with the mrs, quantify every sum of money into tangible goods rather than a gambling session, and treat yourself every now and again to re-appreciate how that feels compared to walking out of a bookies with an arse like a clowns pocket.

Would love to hear how you go on

Barney

Posted: Wed Oct 19, 2011 10:26 pm
by Scott
Best of luck dude :wink:

Posted: Wed Oct 19, 2011 10:55 pm
by toothless11
The best of luck matey. Being honest and talking about things is the first and the biggest step to recovery...

When it comes to gambling, all it is a pyschological battle between two choices. Just stick to what's right and think of what you could loose. That will always help mate.

Posted: Thu Oct 20, 2011 3:44 am
by e4ans
Ive lost a few K in these, its like legal crack cocaine

Posted: Thu Oct 20, 2011 8:49 am
by Scott
Its been quoted many times, but, ''roulette is the crack cocaine of gambling''

Posted: Thu Oct 20, 2011 3:57 pm
by e4ans
They dont even do the half stake back on even chances if the zero comes out

Posted: Fri Oct 21, 2011 10:50 pm
by ChrisBrighton
Good luck Asfish.

I really hope you get the help and support that you need.

Posted: Wed Oct 26, 2011 12:28 pm
by asfish
Not the best start, wife away this weekend so managed to piss £500 away online. :o ops: :roll:

Roll on the GA meeting tomorrow

Posted: Wed Oct 26, 2011 2:15 pm
by Houston
I went to a GA meeting once. Yes, I thought i was going to a fan club for Giorgio Armani but .......

Posted: Wed Oct 26, 2011 5:08 pm
by trayhop123
i bet you a quid i can stop gambling :P

Posted: Wed Oct 26, 2011 9:21 pm
by mouse75
Best of luck Ast - it's a hard slog - good luck.